If You Answer 'Yes' To These Questions, You've Got A Truly Awesome Husband

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Are you wondering if you’ve got a truly awesome husband?

Do you look around at all your friends' husbands and try to compare, to see how your husband rates?

Are you worried that you might be missing something and that perhaps your husband isn’t as great as you think he is?

Fortunately, there is a way to gauge if you’ve got a truly awesome husband. Give the right answers to these five questions and you will know for once and for all!

5 Questions To Help You Find Out If Your Husband Is Awesome:

1. Is he unafraid of your emotions?

Do you have one of those husbands who slowly backs out of the room when he sees you displaying emotion?

If you are sad/mad/frustrated does he find something, anything, to do elsewhere in the hopes that it will pass while he is gone?

Does he try to fix you? Does he tell you to relax and that everything will be fine?

Or, when you are sad/mad/frustrated does your husband lean in because he knows what you need in the moment?

We women are 100% fluent in emotions. We process them 24/7, since birth, with the other women in our lives. Many men, on the other hand, rarely, if ever, process their emotions. As a result, when faced with their wife's emotions they are often left completely clueless as to how to manage them.

And what do they do? They run or diminish or ignore or try to fix. And this does not a good husband make!

A truly awesome husband is someone who is not afraid of his wife’s emotions.

He knows what she needs when she is sad/mad/frustrated. He knows when she needs him to stay or go or help or empathize.  He can be there for her however she needs him to be.

That being said, if you want your husband to be a truly great husband and not be afraid of your emotions, you just might need to teach him what that means, to improve his emotional fluency

How? When you guys are in a good place, maybe on a walk or in the car or over a drink, talk to your husband about what it is you need from when you are struggling. It might not be the same every time but give him a bag of tricks to work with.

My boyfriend knows that when I get depressed I need him to acknowledge that he sees it and that he doesn’t try to talk me out of it. He tells me that he is there for me and gives me the space that I may or may not need in the moment. When I am angry, he definitely doesn’t tell me to relax and when I am frustrated he knows not to hover unless I ask him, too.

It has taken some time for him to really understand what I need when I am feeling emotional and, while he doesn’t always get it right, he does enough to make him truly great!

2. Does he know your love language?

I learned about the five love languages during the very last therapy session before my divorce. Man, do I wish I had learned about them right after my wedding.

Gary Chapman’s Five Love Language system posits that everyone has five ways that they want to be loved: Acts of Service, Gift Giving, Words of Affirmation, Physical Touch, and Quality Time.

The idea is that when we give our person the love that they want, in the language that they want it, they feel loved.

Unfortunately, many of us love someone the way that WE want to be loved, not what THEY need to feel loved. As a result, no one feels loved and everyone is unhappy.

I have a client whose love language is Gift Giving — she loves receiving gifts — and her partner’s love language was Physical Touch. He gave her hugs all the time because he loved her and she would give him small gifts. 

Unfortunately, what my client really needed was small gifts and her partner needed hugs but they didn’t see that and so the efforts that they made to make each other feel loved meant nothing.

So, I would encourage you to take the 5 Love Languages Quiz with your husband so that you can learn each other’s love languages. That way, if he is going to make an effort to show you that he loves you, let him know just what you need to feel it!

3. Is he consistent with his efforts?

I have a client who has been in a relationship for about 2 years. One of the most notable things about their relationship is that they have the same ups and downs over and over and over.

My client’s boyfriend is moody and, when he is in a bad place he shuts down. He doesn’t pay her any attention and it makes her feel unworthy and unloved. Her primary love language is words of affirmation and he is not good with them even on his good days, much less his bad.

Every few months, something blows up and she calls him on his moods and they have a discussion. She explains to him how hard it is for her when he is in a dark place. And he feels badly and promises to do better — to not ignore her and to remind her that he loves her.

And that works for a few weeks and then things go back to the way they have always been.

Is your husband consistent in his efforts around your relationship? Do you have conversations about things that would keep your relationship strong and does he agree to do his part? And, once he does, does he stick to it?

Is he also consistent in other areas of your life together? Can you count on him to do the things that are his to do or that he says he will do? Do you know that he will call you if he is running late? Does he keep in touch when he travels?

If your husband is consistent with his actions and words, then he is a truly awesome husband.

4. Does he give you the freedom to be yourself?

I can’t tell you how many of my clients have found that they have become less of themselves over the course of their marriage.

Of course, having a career (and maybe kids) changed things but many women work hard to be someone who their husbands want them to be.

I have a client who has over the course of their marriage totally changed how she dresses. She has always been a bit flamboyant – and she was so when she met her husband.

But, as time passed, her husband became increasingly critical of her clothing and, as a result, she has become more conservative. She tells me she doesn’t mind but I know that she does.

Have you had to change over the course of your marriage to please your husband and keep the peace or has he encouraged you to be all that you can be in the world?

If your husband gives you the freedom to fly, then he is truly an awesome husband!

5. Does he know what kind of gifts you like?

This is a tough one. Giving gifts is complicated and that is why, if your husband knows what kind of gifts you like, he is truly great!

My ex-husband always gave me gifts that I tended to exchange. In retrospect, I regret that I did that but, in the moment, it was very upsetting to me.

Source: yourtango


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